The Purpose You're Already Living

What if purpose isn't something you have to find... it's something you're already living every single day?

We talk about purpose constantly. In business groups, masterminds, personal development spaces.. the question comes up over and over again: What's your purpose? And somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that purpose had to be this big, grand, definitive thing. Like there's one answer, and until you find it, you're somehow falling short.

But lately, a few synchronicities have been showing up, things I've read, conversations I've had, moments I've witnessed, all pointing to the same message. And I think it's one you need to hear right now.

What My Dad Said That Made Me Pause

A while ago when I was visiting my dad, who is a very unique individual, I had been thinking about purpose and I asked him about it. His answer surprised me and made me take pause, because it wasn't anything huge or grand. It wasn't about accomplishing all this stuff or leaving a legacy or building something massive.

It was just: living.

Living is in itself a purpose. Each day being in the moment, being in the energy of what you're doing.

He didn't elaborate very much at all, actually jsut said this is it... But it made me really reflect, and then I started seeing that same thread show up everywhere. And I think that's exactly what I want to bring to you today.

The Problem With Tying Your Purpose to Your Business

When you spend time in business groups or masterminds, purpose comes up all the time, what's the purpose behind your business, your podcast, your brand? And I think sometimes we take that and run with it in a way that becomes limiting. We start to believe that our business purpose must also be our life purpose. That it must be everything. That it has to be this big black-and-white, this is it kind of declaration.

And when it isn't? We feel like we're missing something.

Here's what I want to offer instead: we can have different purposes at different moments in time. And within each of those moments, it's about giving your all to what you're doing, living purposefully in the moment. That's enough.

The Work You're Already Doing Is Enough

When I was a teacher, I felt like I had purpose in supporting my students, creating an amazing environment for them, helping them grow as people and in their education in all the ways. That was real, meaningful purpose.

And raising kids? That is one of the biggest jobs out there. Living in purpose while helping support your kids is amazing, and yet sometimes we feel like it's not enough. Like we need to be doing something bigger.

I was talking to a mom friend recently, and she was walking me through her day. She said, "My full-time job is basically from 1:30 until 9:30 at night" prepping dinners, going grocery shopping, driving her kids everywhere, being there for them, helping with homework, getting them to bed, getting them fed. She said sometimes it starts even earlier, she's almost prepping during the day for her night job.

And when you list it all out, it is so much.

How many of us are doing so much every day and still feeling like maybe it's not enough? Maybe we don't have a big enough purpose? That's wild, if you really break it down.

Living Is the Purpose

What my dad said, combined with all of these pieces coming together, made me feel something shift. Just living and enjoying your life, that is a huge part of the purpose.

Yes, give purpose to the things you're doing. Do things that feel like they matter to you. But in your day to day, if you can just enjoy the little things, the song that comes on the radio, getting to see your kids when they get home from school, giving them a hug, tucking them in, all those moments.

Even the difficult moments have purpose. I was appreciating my husband this weekend, one, because he made muffins for me to take to my daughter's dance competition so she could have a good breakfast the next day before soccer. And I was reflecting on all of the different people I've dated and how amazing it is that I ended up with this wonderful man. But I also really enjoyed some of the terrible experiences, as crazy as that sounds. Not while I was in them always, but they only gave me clarity for what I did want for my own life. They were just part of the journey.

And if, when things are going wrong on the journey, you can be like, okay, clearly this is showing me something I don't want, this is out of alignment, let me refocus on what I do want, that's purpose too. It's an opportunity to feel all the emotions, to just be here in this human experience, and to anchor more deeply into who you are and what you want.

What Dance Competitions Taught Me About Showing Up

This weekend I watched my daughter dance at a competition, and I saw a really wide variety of levels across all the different rooms. And the thing I loved about that was everyone had the opportunity to dance. To do something they loved.

Watching the dancers on stage having so much fun, I kept thinking: yes, of course you want to get better. You want to achieve the highest score, place in the top five or ten, do well as the season goes on. Those things feel good because you've put the work in. Because you can see your own growth.

But while awards are fun and external validation is fun, the real fun is being on the stage. Performing. Doing the thing. Getting to dance.

And it's like that with life. We're in our life, we're living our life. That's the fun part. Not waiting for the external validation to click into place. Not waiting for whatever it is to arrive before you feel like you're allowed to enjoy it. But being present while you're going through the steps.

The dancers who are loving what they're doing, you can feel that energy, you can see it. And when you're doing something from a place of genuinely enjoying the doing of it, that external validation comes. You place well. Things show up. The cherry on top arrives. But just getting to show up and do the thing? That is way more powerful.

Presence Over Countdown

Both of my kids are getting older, and I try to avoid the heaviness of counting down how many summers we have left, how many years until they're 18. It used to be the opposite: counting up, only this long until they're in school this many hours, only this long until we reach this milestone. And now it's completely flipped, and I try to just be present instead.

Right now I feel like I'm in such a beautiful spot where I can be present and enjoy everything for what it's worth. Because the beauty, and sometimes the pain, of life is that nothing is forever.

Every soccer game, every baseball game, every drum performance or dance show just enjoy it while you're there. Because someday you'll be like, "I remember when." And I want to think remember when and also be like, I enjoyed it so much then. That was such a good time in my life.

It's Fun to Play This Game

Yes, of course the awards and the victories mean so much. Working as a team, putting yourself out there, going for it, it feels good to give something your all. But it's also just fun to play the game.

And so when I think about life, I think about it as: it is fun to play this game. It is fun to live this life. It is fun to be here on purpose.

When you think about living your life this week, both big purpose and small purpose,  yes, it's fun to find purpose in the amazing, in the achievements, in what you bring to what you're doing. But it's just as amazing to find purpose in the day-to-day. In just living your life and seeing how much fun you can have, how much joy you can have, how much you can enjoy this whole experience.

Think about what you truly want for yourself and let that be enough. Let the journey, the doing of the work, the resting, the good and the bad, all the pieces together, let yourself find joy in that. Let yourself find purpose in that.

When I say purpose, I don't mean it in the way your human brain has to explain or rationalize. I mean it more in the sense that: being in this moment, enjoying this moment, is enough. That in itself is sometimes the whole purpose.

This Week's Invitation

Wishing you a beautiful week ahead, where you believe and know that everything is always working out for you, and you get to live each day knowing that that is enough purpose to get to the next.

You're not behind. You're not missing it. You're already in it.

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