Episode #128 More Fun, Less Pressure: 3 Shifts to Trust Yourself This Week

More Fun, Less Pressure: 3 Shifts to Trust Yourself This Week

Welcome to this week’s episode of Trusting Dorothy.

I don’t know if it’s that we’re more into spring, getting closer to summer, or just feeling that summer break energy, but there’s a lot happening in May. And the truth is, you get to choose how it feels.

Right now, I’m choosing to embrace it. The excitement. The fun. Watching my daughter light up with everything she has coming up. Just being present in it.

So this week, I’m sharing three things you can focus on to trust yourself more, have more fun, and feel more flow in your life—because things really do get to work out for you.

1. Life Is Meant to Be Fun

I was thinking about this while teaching a rebound class, the mini trampoline class I just started teaching again.

It’s high energy, good music, a little bit of dance. And the whole point of the class that day was simple: have fun.

If you missed a beat, it didn’t matter. It repeats. You’ll catch it next time. Just stay in it.

And I kept thinking… what if we approached life like that?

There are always going to be things we miss. Lessons we don’t fully get the first time. But odds are, they’ll come back around. We’ll get another chance.

So instead of making everything so serious or so heavy, what if we just stayed in it? Kept going. Had a little more fun with it.

Where are you making things harder than they need to be?

Where could you bring in a little more lightness?

Because even if life isn’t perfect, you can still be present in it. You can still find moments of joy.

And for me, workouts have always been that place where the noise quiets. Where I have to be in my body, in the moment.

And I keep asking myself, how can I bring more of that into my life?

2. What You Dwell On Becomes Your Experience

This really came up for me over Mother’s Day.

I felt so much gratitude. Getting to be a mom. Getting to celebrate that. Letting myself actually receive the appreciation instead of brushing it off or feeling like I hadn’t done enough.

Because if you’re honest, that can be hard sometimes.

We can hold these expectations of ourselves thinking we should be doing more, doing better, being perfect. And at the same time, we’re not letting ourselves just be where we are.

But two things can be true.

You can want to grow, to do better, to evolve and still be completely worthy of celebrating yourself right now.

And then… my daughter gave me one of those fill-in-the-blank Mother’s Day letters.

And overall, it was sweet. But there were a couple lines that felt like a little bit of a scathing review.

One of them was: “Something my mom does to relax is… nothing. My mom is always stressing everyone out.”

And I had to laugh.

Because I can hold both things at once. I can know how much she loves me, how safe she feels with me and also see that maybe there are still places I can grow.

That’s the shift.

Because what you dwell on matters.

Your thoughts create your beliefs. Your beliefs shape your energy. And your energy influences what you experience.

I could take that one comment and turn it into a belief: I’m always stressed.

Or I could say: Sometimes I get stressed, but that’s not who I am.

And then choose to anchor into something different.

“I’m at peace.”
“Things work out.”
“I’m calm.”

What you believe becomes a magnet.

If you keep telling yourself you’re overwhelmed, anxious, not good at something you’re going to keep finding proof of that.

But you can also choose differently.

You can start looking for moments of peace. Start reinforcing the version of you that feels more true.

And over time, you create more of that.

3. You Don’t Have to Be Realistic

This one might feel a little uncomfortable but you don’t have to be realistic with your dreams, your thoughts, or what you believe is possible for your life.

If something feels unrealistic… that’s okay.

You get to create your own experience.

We take on so many limits from other people. What’s possible. What’s practical. What’s “too much.”

I see this all the time, even with kids.

People will say things like, “She won’t be able to do both forever,” about my daughter doing dance and soccer.

And maybe that’s true eventually.

But right now? She loves both. And I can see how both are helping her grow.

So why would I limit that based on someone else’s limits?

Why not just ask why not?

Why not go after what you want?
Why not believe something bigger?
Why not let things work out?

At the same time, this isn’t about needing to do more to prove your worth.

Because you don’t.

You don’t have to accomplish more to be valuable.

Some of the best moments are the simplest ones laying next to my daughter reading, sitting with my son while he talks about something he loves.

Those moments are enough.

And if you’re always chasing the next thing, trying to get somewhere else, you miss them.

The Real Shift

Trusting yourself isn’t something that happens all at once.

It’s built in the small moments.

In choosing a better thought.
In letting yourself have more fun.
In being present in your life as it is right now.

That is the becoming.

Not when you get there. Not when everything is perfect.

Right now.

So this week, let it be lighter.

Let it be more fun.

Notice what’s already going right and watch how more of it starts to flow in.